You understand that death, like birth, is a sacred transition that goes more smoothly with forethought and preparation.
You want your death to feel peaceful and meaningful.
You want to know you’re not alone.
You want to know someone is there just for you to hold your hand, play your favorite music, complete that important ritual.
You want an ally and advocate.
A doula, Greek for “one who serves,” does all these things and more.
For those preparing for their own death: You want someone to be with you and/or your loved ones when you transition. You want your loved ones to feel supported, so they can support you. I am proud to support clients who choose physician aid in dying (legal in Washington).
For those whose loved one is dying: Doulas provide comfort, relief and support to families who companion their dying loved one. Death doulas hold a safe space for the sacred work of the dying, and for those who witness. That includes supporting families in taking breaks and practicing self care. You may have some support already in place, family or even hospice, and that’s wonderful. But, sometimes, families need a little more, and the dying need a present, attentive and dedicated companion who will create and maintain a peaceful setting.
For those whose loved one is transitioning in a community setting or care facility, or is far away: You’d like them to have more support. You want companionship for your loved one during their transition, someone to hold their hand, to create sacred space and a peaceful setting. Someone to interface with staff and update you regularly. Someone to be there.