What is a mourning doula, and why should I hire one?

Imagine you have just lost a loved one. Whether the loss was expected or sudden, life has changed.  What was familiar may seem strange; what was simple may seem difficult, if not impossible.

Loss is experienced in the emotional and physical body. Loss feels painful, and even paralyzing.  For some, it creates difficulty in some or all areas of daily functioning, including decision making, task completion, and communicating.
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Yet, loss must be felt and experienced, for if ignored or denied, it creates isolation, emotional dissonance and relational difficulties.  Loss is different for different people, and feelings know no timeline.


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However, time marches on, no matter how we feel, and there are many tasks to be completed and arrangements to be made when a loved one dies.  Your Mourning Doula provides emotional, informational, and practical support for you as you experience of the loss of your loved one.   She understands your needs, not only addressing but also anticipating them. 


Your Mourning Doula provides emotional support.  She may sit with you over a cup of tea and simply listen, or perhaps stay the night.  She may call you or visit in the days, weeks and months post-loss to see how you are.  She may refer you to a therapist or support group as requested.  She is gentle, accommodating, and flexible; she understands the flowing nature of grief and loss, and remains present with you as you experience, offering as much or as little support as you need. 

 Your Mourning Doula provides informational support (resources) and practical support that are highly tailored to your needs.  Your Mourning Doula may provide information about local funeral homes, contact them on your behalf, or even accompany you as you visit them to help you understand your options and make good choices. 
She may provide full concierge service, addressing needs large and small, such as arranging transportation and/or accommodation for out of town relatives, picking up groceries, hiring housekeepers or ordering flowers. 

As every situation is unique, be assured your Mourning Doula is specially trained and prepared to provide sensitive, flexible and creative service, allowing you to take time to focus on self-care at this unique time. 

Ask your Mourning Doula how she can help you today!