EOL doula package: You want the peace of mind that comes from knowing your loved ones understand your wishes. You want to know what options you have for what happens to your body when you die. Through meeting you will
Understand what documents you need to establish End Of Life medical care wishes and legal wishes
Understand how to establish legacy
Understand options for your disposition, or what happens to your body if you die, and get practical information or referrals
Receive a copy of your Death Plan and an Advanced Directive for Washington State, Five Wishes, and The Conversation Project.
We will start by reviewing your self-assessment form and establishing your goals for our meeting. We will go over documents that guide medical professionals and your loved ones through your end of life care choices, including an Advanced Directive for Washington State, Five Wishes, and The Conversation Project. You’ll receive copies of these documents to discuss and complete with your loved ones; I will guide this discussion as you wish, at our initial meeting or a follow up visit. We will also write a personal Death Plan that fills in the gaps of information not covered by these documents or your will or other legal documents. Your death plan is meant as a guide for families and loved ones to follow with ease, so they know exactly what to do. It’s an act of kindness to yourself and your loves ones, so I encourage you to be thoughtful and creative. It may include a copy of an Ethical Will, or legacy letter. The death plan includes as much specific information as you like, whether it’s practical, like instructions on how to manage your online content, or philosophical, like if you want a funeral or a celebration. We will discuss what you’d like to do with your body when you die. We’ll walk through all of your options, including those you already know about, like traditional burial and cremation, and some innovative eco-conscious death practices you may never have heard of, so you can make the best choice for yourself.
$275.00 for initial session (around 2.5 hours)
$150 for follow up session
Death Doula packages: These services are for those whose death is expected soon. You can hire me for yourself, or your loved one. I offer two services that can be provided separately or combined:
Service one: This service is called Life Review. I’ll help you tell your life story and record it for your loved ones to enjoy for years to come. There’s lots of research on the healing benefits of Life Review for the dying and their families. The dying have an opportunity to slow down, reflect and find meaning. The loved ones learn something new, and see their dying loved one in a different, more holistic way. We will use Life Review to create peace, and opportunities for forgiveness, in a safe and supported way. First, you tell your story. You can tell just me at first, or me and your family. I can record it for you. You might to make drawings, or a collage, or a song to go with your story. You might want to show your loved ones what you created during our next session. I encourage you to think about what feels right for you. Your loved ones, family and/or community and I will listen to your story. I will read it if you need help. Life Review can be broken into shorter sessions based on your health needs at any given time. Sometimes, you might want or need to take a break, or finish early and schedule another session.
Life Review $275 for creation of life story (around 2.5 hours).
Follow up session $150 to finish and/or reflect further and/ or share the story with family, loved ones or community.
Service two: For the actively dying client ranging from $300-500 I am here to provide comfort and support to the person who is actively dying (expected to die within days/hours), and any loved ones present. It can be scary and overwhelming when a loved one is dying. Just like being born into the world, dying is an unknown. You want extra support for yourself, because you want to be emotionally present and attentive to your loved one’s needs. I am here to keep things calm. I provide everything you and your loved one needs except medical care. If your loved one is alone, perhaps in a hospital or facility, I act as an advocate and communication bridge with staff, and I give my undivided attention to keeping your loved one calm and comfortable. When the dying and the people who are with them are in a calm, comfortable, quiet environment, everyone’s experience is better, more peaceful. I’ll work with you to create that environment, recognizing this as a sacred time, using what you have, and some tools from my toolkit. The support you need is unique, and whatever feels right for you is right. You might like me to make you a cup of tea, or tell you about the Four Things That Matter to the dying, or stay with your loved one while you rest. My aim is to create a safe space for the dying person to do the work of dying, and for the loved ones to do the work of letting go. I offer Reiki and energy work, as well as pre-death blessings, as part of this service.
Mourning Doula packages: Your loved one has died, and I am here to help. I assist with practical tasks such as shopping for and/or preparing food, performing light housework or organizing. I provide company and emotional support. If you need to make decisions and arrangements, I am your ally and advocate. I call caterers, make travel arrangements, hire celebrants…whatever makes your life easier.
If you want an extra layer of support and comfort, or just don’t want to be alone, I offer overnight stays. Overnights must be pre-arranged and are $350 per night, not to exceed three nights, plus all travel expenses.
Home Funeral Doula Packages: What is a home funeral? Until 150 years ago, everyone had a home funeral. Families cared for their dead, and people came to the home to visit and pay their respects. The funeral was simple, often at home, and the family participated in the burial. You can do the same today if you want a natural, less expensive option that allows more time with your loved one and an enhanced sense of closure.
Just like a traditional funeral with a funeral home, there are a few steps to home funerals. The first step is “laying out” the body, or getting it prepared. After that is creating your vision for the funeral/ gathering/ celebration and figuring out who’s doing what. You can host a vigil/wake/visitors (as desired) and, when you’re ready, the funeral/gathering/celebration. Last, your loved one’s body goes to its final resting place. So, right for some, not others. If you’re intrigued, let’s get you familiar with the home funeral process from start to finish. Ask me anything.
Initial consultation (around 1.5 hours) to discuss what’s involved in laying out the body, and your vision for the next steps: $250.
Follow up sessions $125/hr. If you decide the home funeral is not for you, I can refer you to someone who suits your needs.
If you do want a home funeral: Service two: You’ll need to lay out or prepare the body of the deceased. I’ll walk you through how to do this. You’ll need few people, some simple supplies, and a sense of humor. I’ll guide you every step of the way, teaching you to use safe body mechanics as you prepare, cleanse, cover and cool your loved one’s body:
$250 for around 1.5 hours,
Then, you have some choices that all fall under Service Three: Home Funeral and Vigil/Wake Facilitation This is personal service based on your needs, in your home, at your pace. I’ll help you create a fitting send off for your loved one, and I’ll be there to make sure everything goes smoothly. I take care of “housekeeping” activities such as making and answering phone calls, sending invitations, interviewing celebrants, receiving guests, arranging flowers, hiring caterers etc. We’ll discuss options for inexpensive, green and creative body containers, like wicker caskets, shrouds with fresh flowers, and cardboard caskets that you decorate with art and poetry. I will organize times for visits, and greet people for the ceremony. I’ll create a slide show, or print a poster…whatever creates ease for you, and allows your focus to rest where you need it to.
Organizing Doula: Initial 2-3 hour consultation to discuss your organizing needs for your loved one’s things. We will determine what’s most important to you as we work together, and how to make sure you feel safe and supported along the way.
We’ll develop a strategy to reach your goals, decide what level of support will benefit you most, and get started. $250
Additional sessions or independent work by organizer: $125/hr